Somatic Meditation Trauma Therapy


Kirsty Laing Counselling 


Couple And Individual Counselling

The most important relationship we have is our relationship with ourself. Exploring therapy can feel daunting. It is also a big step toward reconnecting to yourself.

  • I feel passionate about working with a trauma informed approached to support clients to reconnect to their emotional self with compassion

  • I am trained in an integrative approach. I explore client’s histories and needs, touching on different approaches, to get a sense of what will work best to connect with and process emotions. I use various approaches including trauma informed/somatic techniques, felt sense meditation, self-compassion, EFT tapping, emotion focused communication, inner child work, exploration of parts of self and nervous system regulation.

  • I work online only, with couples and individuals across the UK. I welcome diversity including all body sizes, abilities, races, sexualities, genders, working inclusively with GSDR, religious and political values. I have personal experience with Neuro Diversity and being adopted, I welcome anyone looking to explore their own emotions in these areas. I have experience supporting victims of domestic abuse, those struggling with attachment and relational issues, anxiety, depression, CPTSD, low self esteem, narcissistic parents, as well as other trauma related issues

  • Felt Sense Meditation Trauma informed compassion focused therapy

    Felt Sense

    Working with the felt sense is learning to connect with our emotions in our body. All of our emotions begin in our bodies and all of our experiences are stored in our body. Learning to connect with them can help us feel safer in our emotional self

  • Self Compassion therapy for anxiety, low self esteem, depression and inner critic

    Self Compassion

    Slowly building compassion towards ourself creates new neural pathways in our brain. Learning, over time, to support critical parts of ourself with kindness and validation soothes anxiety, relieves depression and repairs our relationship to ourself

  • Inner Child work therapy, inner child reconnection reconnect with yourself

    Inner Child Work

    When we experience trauma, younger parts of ourself can feel stuck, trapped, alone or rejected within us. Connecting with our inner child, noticing, listening and nurturing can help to free us from overwhelm, fear, anxiety and self loathing

Couple Counselling
Couple Therapy
LGBTQ+ Couple Counselling
Online Couple Therapy
Emotion Focused Therapy

Working with Couples

Life can feel overwhelming when things are going wrong in our relationships. We are expected to know how to have a healthy relationship, even though no one taught us how. Relationship counselling is often seen as a sign of failure, something we do as a last resort. I would love to change this narrative. Relating is hard, there are so many hidden emotions that get in the way of safe connection, and when we don’t feel connected to our partner it hurts.

Things we can do

Understand Our Attachment Style

Many of us who struggle in relationships will have an anxious attachment style. It’s estimated that around 60% of the population have insecure attachment. Those with insecure attachment are also often drawn to each other. Understanding our attachment style, and how it might be playing into negative cycles in our relationship, helps us to to build awareness, bring in coping skills, and work toward a more secure connection.

Learn Emotion Focused Communication

More often than not, when interactions with our partners don’t go well, there is a deeper emotion behind our reaction. Many of our negative emotional cycles stem from trying to gain closer connection, or fear of losing connection. Unfortunately we often learn ways of coping with this fear that end up pushing our partners away. Through emotion focused communication we can understand ourselves and our partners better, regulate big emotions and have more successful connection and repair.

Build a Relationship That Thrives

In todays society there is no longer value placed on time given to cultivating our relationship. Relationships need nurture and consistency to take them from surviving to thriving. Small things often make all the difference. Creating positive cycles, noticing and meeting our partners bids for connection, regular affection, sharing our needs and boundaries with kindness, and taking time to dream, explore and delight in each other, all go a long way towards building a deeper bond