Does your relationship feel painful, stressful or overwhelming? Do you feel like you’re having the same arguments over and over? Or do you feel unable to share how you feel inside, the things that don’t feel ok, or that you would like to change. Does this leave you feeling that you’re holding a world of emotions inside?  

Or are you in the early days of a relationship and looking for support to have foundational conversations, smooth out dynamics and get great tools, tips and advice on how to create a relationship that is nurturing, safe and able to weather the storms of life?

We all come into our relationships carrying messages and coping mechanisms from our experiences in life. Many of us haven’t been given safe or helpful examples on how to related to others, or cope with our own emotions. This affects how we show up in our romantic relationships. In our society relating is the one thing we’re all expected to know how to do without any proper training, help and support, and often feel shame when things aren’t going well. I’m here to tell you that behind closed doors many of us are not managing to relate in a way that feels safe and nurturing, to take the shame out of peoples struggles to relate, and support you in building a relationship that feels good for you.

When working with couples I work with Emotion Focused Communication, understanding attachment styles, and learning the dynamics that have formed within the relationship, to help break negative cycles and create positive, safe and rewarding connection. I use somatic tools (working with your emotions in your body) to regulate emotions, supporting more effective communication and emotional connection. I bring in tools, information and worksheets from the Gottman Institute to guide reconnection at home supporting you to build a relationship that thrives.